Anong karapatan kong mag- kritik
ng isang teorya?
Sa totoo lang, pakiramdam ko wala
akong karapatan dahil unang- una wala akong interes sa kahit anong teorya,
pangalawa hindi ko pa lubusang naiintindihan ang teoryang aking iki-kritik at sa aking pananaw hindi ko
kailangang pakialamanan ang paniniwala ng ibang tao dahil panigurado
maguguluhan lamang ako. Ngunit ako ay interesado na matuto kung paano magsulat
ng maayos at matuto kung paano mag kritik ng tama kaya dapat lang na gawin ko
ito.
Social Penetration TheoryWhat is Social Penetration Theory? Social
Penetration Theory asserts that as relationships develop person’s communication
from superficial to deeply personal topics, slowing penetrating the
communicators' public persona to reach their core personality or sense of
self.(Source: Altman, I., & Taylor, D. (1973). Social penetration: The development of
interpersonal relationships)
In simpler explanation: The more time we spend with others, the more likely we are to self-disclose, more intimate thought and details of our life.
Penetration goes trough a number of stages.
1.
Orientation stage. Here, we play safe with small talk and simple, harmless
clichés like ‘Life’s like that’, following standards of social desirability and
norms of appropriateness.
-Absolutely true! Fake
friends? Maybe others? For sure, everyone or if not most of us (especially
Filipinos) does this first stage a lot. We all want to have a good impression
to everybody from the very beginning, so we’re interacting with them safely.
2.
Exploratory affective stage. We now start to reveal ourselves, expressing
personal attitudes about moderate topics such as government and education. This
may not be the whole truth as we are not yet comfortable to lay ourselves bare.
We are still feeling our way forward. This is the stage of casual friendship,
and many relationships do not go past this stage.
- I agree! Of course, we
can never hide who we really are. Whether we like it or not, our real attitude (positive or negative) will be revealed sooner or later. In this stage we’re
“sort of ” comfortable with each other and we have a little “guts” to express ourself.
3.
Affective stage. Now we start to
talk about private and personal matters. We may use personal idioms. Criticism
and arguments may arise. There may be intimate touching and kissing at this
stage.
-As the time goes by we’re
already comfortable enough with each other. In this stage we already have the
courage to share our private life with him/her even though
sometimes they really don’t care. “There
may be intimate touching and kissing at this stage.”- I can’t relate!!!
I’ve no experience yet.”
4.
Stable stage. The relationship
now reaches a plateau in which personal things are shared and each can predict
the emotional reactions of the other person.
-Yes! Finally! All of us
or if not most of us for sure will have a “friend” that would have a steady and
strong relationship with us. Sadly, not all will come up to this stage because
there are a lot of fake friends!
5.
Depenetration. When the relationship starts to break down and costs exceed
benefits, then there is a withdrawal of disclosure which leads to termination
of the relationship.
- Not all will come up to
this stage. Why? There’s a LIFETIME relationship! It’s hard to have one, but it
exists! But wait, depenetration exists! There’s a lot of time that you can
experience this stage. People change! Feelings change!
References:
Anderson,
R., & Ross, V. (1998). Questions of communication: A practical
introduction to theory (2nd ed.). New York: St. Martin's Press.
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